Once the carols are sung, the dishes are stacked, and your relatives are finally no longer in your kitchen, it is time for a very different sort of holiday tradition.
The stockings are hung, the tree is twinkling, and somewhere in the house there is a bed quietly calling your names. Santa may prefer milk and cookies. You may prefer silk, candlelight, and a scandalous new position or two.
This guide is your invitation to create a secret, thoroughly consensual “naughty list” with your partner. Think of it as a holiday romance that wandered into the modern bedroom and discovered high quality lubricants and very persuasive vibrators. Every idea here is meant to be playful rather than performative, intimate rather than intimidating, and deeply respectful of your bodies and boundaries.
Before you unwrap anything more exciting than a ribbon, talk openly about what sounds delightful and what is simply a firm no. Agree that anyone can pause at any time.
Then light something that smells of pine or cinnamon, queue your sultriest winter playlist, and let Bone and Blossom help you turn a quiet winter evening into a conspiratorial, candlelit adventure.
How To Use These Christmas Sex Positions For Cozy, Consensual Pleasure
Each of the following six Christmas sex positions comes with:
- A festive name and overall mood
- Best uses, such as deeper penetration, clitoral focus, or face to face romance
- A difficulty level, from gentle beginner to athletic enthusiast
- Practical comfort notes and discreet toy suggestions you can find through Bone and Blossom
Adapt everything to suit your bodies, mobility, gender configuration, and curiosity.
When you see “receiving partner” and “penetrating partner,” know that these roles can belong to anyone, and can involve fingers, a strap on, a dildo, or a dildo wand, rather than a penis. Take what fits, modify what needs softening, and most of all, keep your sense of humour very much alive.
The Sleigh Ride: A Christmas Cowgirl Sex Position For Deep Eye Contact
Festive Vibe & Best For
The Sleigh Ride is your holiday twist on the classic cowgirl or rider position. Picture the receiving partner straddling the penetrating partner, facing them, bodies pressed together like two conspirators in a carriage racing through the snow. It is slow, teasing, and excellent for deep kisses under twinkling lights.
- Vibe: Romantic, teasing, visually indulgent
- Best for: Eye contact, clitoral access, and controlled penetration depth
- Difficulty: Beginner friendly
How To Arrange The Sleigh Ride Position
The penetrating partner reclines against a headboard or a sturdy pile of pillows, slightly propped up rather than lying flat. The receiving partner climbs astride their hips, facing them, with knees planted on either side. Adjust your distance so that both of you can kiss comfortably. Gentle rocking forward and back allows the receiving partner to find the most pleasurable angle for both penetration and clitoral stimulation.
To keep things festive, keep on a soft robe, a Santa hat, or thigh high stockings, then “unwrap” layers slowly as you ride. Invite the penetrating partner to hold your hips or your waist and follow your rhythm rather than dictating it. The magic of this position is control. The receiving partner can decide the pace, range of motion, and depth.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- Place a cushion beneath the penetrating partner’s lower back to reduce strain and raise their pelvis slightly.
- If your knees tire easily, keep your feet flat on the bed for added stability.
- Add a small, external vibrator for clitoral stimulation while you ride. A quiet vibrator that fits neatly between pubic bones keeps the noise discreet if you have guests staying down the hall.
- If penetration is with a toy, a harness compatible dildo or a gently curved dildo gives the receiving partner more immediate G spot contact while they control intensity.
This is an ideal first “naughty list” entry if you are exhausted from holiday cooking but still wish to exchange one last very special gift.
Fireside Spooning: Intimate Christmas Sex Position For Cozy Couples
Festive Vibe & Best For
Fireside Spooning is the intimate, half asleep cousin of the Sleigh Ride. Imagine two bodies nestled on their sides like a pair of lovers hiding beneath a mountain of quilts, faces soft, limbs intertwined, the room lit only by the orange glow of a fireplace or the quiet sparkle of your tree.
- Vibe: Sleepy, nurturing, deeply affectionate
- Best for: Gentle penetration, pregnancy comfort, low impact pleasure, and lazy morning or late night sex
- Difficulty: Beginner friendly and mobility friendly
How To Arrange The Fireside Spooning Position
Both partners lie on their sides, facing the same direction. The receiving partner nestles in front, the penetrating partner behind, pelvises aligned. The rear partner can slide an arm beneath the front partner’s pillow or wrap it around their waist. Penetration can be achieved with a penis, a strap on, or a slim dildo, guided gently from behind.
The front partner can press their thighs together slightly to increase friction and provide more sensation at the entrance. Very small adjustments in hip height, supported by pillows between the knees or behind the lower back, can dramatically improve comfort.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- Protect sensitive joints with a folded blanket beneath hips or between knees.
- If one partner is pregnant or experiences back pain, this side lying position can be far more comfortable than anything weight bearing.
- An external vibrator held at the front, between the receiving partner’s thighs, can quietly enhance clitoral pleasure without disrupting the cuddled embrace.
- A small, body safe butt plug can be worn by the receiving partner before you settle in. This can increase the sense of fullness and turn even very slow thrusts into deliciously intense sensations.
It is the sort of position that pairs beautifully with soft Christmas instrumentals and the promise of hot cocoa afterwards.
Reindeer Games: Playful Christmas Sex Position For Adventurous Couples
Festive Vibe & Best For
Reindeer Games is a spirited twist on a standing from behind position. This one is playful, slightly athletic, and best attempted when you are more awake than you were during Fireside Spooning. Think mistletoe, laughter, and perhaps a slightly wicked glint in the eye of whoever suggested it.
- Vibe: Flirtatious, energetic, lightly rough if you both enjoy it
- Best for: Short, intense sessions, shower sex (with care), or a stolen interlude while the holiday pudding cools
- Difficulty: Intermediate, with a focus on balance and communication
How To Arrange The Reindeer Games Position
The receiving partner stands, feet about hip width apart, and bends slightly at the hips while supporting themselves on a stable surface, such as a sturdy table, counter, or the edge of a bed. The penetrating partner stands behind, guiding penetration from that angle.
If balance is a concern, choose a bed and have the receiving partner rest one knee on the mattress while keeping the other foot planted on the floor. This angled, half kneel variation can reduce strain while keeping the spirited energy of the position.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- Use non slip bath mats and handles if attempting any variation of this in the shower. Wet tile and enthusiastic thrusting are not natural allies.
- Protect lower backs by keeping the bend at the hips moderate rather than extreme.
- An anal safe butt plug worn by the receiving partner before you begin can make this position feel especially intense. Ensure it has a proper flared base and is paired with plenty of lubricant.
- For those using toys instead of a penis, a harness compatible dildo or a dildo allows the penetrating partner to experiment with different thrusting rhythms and angles.
Feel free to add a holiday soundtrack that veers more “naughty party” than “church choir.” This is the position for laughing between moans and reminding each other that you are far more entertaining than any seasonal film.
Under The Mistletoe: Christmas Missionary Sex Position With A Romantic Twist
Festive Vibe & Best For
Under the Mistletoe is an elevated missionary position designed for those who love face to face contact, tender kissing, and deep emotional intimacy. Imagine a sprig of mistletoe hung from the ceiling or taped to the headboard, a firm reminder that kissing is not merely encouraged. It is non negotiable.
- Vibe: Soft, romantic, ideal for slow lovemaking
- Best for: Closeness, eye contact, and controlled G spot stimulation with the right support
- Difficulty: Beginner friendly, with very simple variations
How To Arrange The Under The Mistletoe Position
The receiving partner lies on their back. The penetrating partner lies on top, supporting some of their weight on forearms or hands. To shift this from ordinary missionary to something more targeted, slide a folded blanket or firm pillow beneath the receiving partner’s hips. This gentle lift can angle the pelvis for more direct G spot or prostate stimulation.
Keep lips and hands active. Trace the outline of shoulders and ribs, explore thighs, and alternate between deep kisses and close whispered praise. The Victorian poets might have called it “worship.” You can simply call it very good sex.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- If wrists or shoulders tire easily, the penetrating partner can lower their chest to rest against their partner’s while keeping hips active.
- The receiving partner can loop their legs around the penetrating partner’s waist or leave them relaxed, depending on comfort and joint mobility.
- Slip a slim external vibrator between bodies at the point where pelvises meet for clitoral or perineal stimulation. A low profile vibrator is ideal here so it does not feel bulky.
- Alternatively, a small dildo can be used for manual penetration while both partners remain side by side or chest to chest, if someone prefers not to bear weight.
This position works beautifully with soft lighting and the quiet crackle of a fireplace video if you do not have a real hearth. Mistletoe is optional, though highly recommended for those who enjoy thematic accuracy.
Sleigh Bell Rock: Christmas Reverse Cowgirl Position For Visual Variety
Festive Vibe & Best For
Sleigh Bell Rock is the mischievous cousin of The Sleigh Ride. The receiving partner still rides, but faces away from the penetrating partner. Imagine the delightful view of a partner in red lace riding a “sleigh” of hips while bells jingle somewhere in the background.
- Vibe: A touch exhibitionist, confident, rhythm focused
- Best for: Changing up the visual scenery, G spot or prostate access, and hands free clitoral play
- Difficulty: Intermediate, largely due to balance and thigh strength
How To Arrange The Sleigh Bell Rock Position
The penetrating partner reclines on their back. The receiving partner straddles their hips but faces the opposite direction, looking toward the penetrating partner’s feet rather than their face. The receiving partner can lean slightly forward, bracing their hands on the penetrating partner’s thighs, or sit more upright for a different sensation.
This angle can provide more direct access to the G spot or prostate, particularly if the receiving partner experiments with rocking motions rather than full up and down strokes. It also frees the receiving partner’s hands to explore their own body, perhaps teasing nipples through holiday lingerie or guiding a vibrator against their clitoris.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- Support sensitive knees with extra padding beneath them if you are on a firm mattress.
- The penetrating partner can hold the receiving partner’s hips lightly to help with balance, but should follow the rhythm set by the rider.
- A wand vibrator held at the front of the receiving partner’s pelvis can create powerful blended pleasure. Choose a waterproof, easy to grip vibrator if your hands are slippery with lube.
- If penetration is with a toy, a gently G-spot vibrator is especially effective in this position, since the receiving partner can fine tune the angle of entry.
Add a mirror across from the bed if you both enjoy visual stimulation. Watching yourselves together can feel like creating your own private, very limited edition holiday film that no one else will ever see.
Silent Night (Not Really): Christmas Oral Sex Position For Slow, Luxurious Pleasure
Festive Vibe & Best For
Silent Night is devoted to the art of unhurried oral pleasure. The goal is not acrobatics, but serenity. Think of one partner stretched out like a contented cat beneath twinkling fairy lights, while the other settles in for devoted, unhurried exploration.
- Vibe: Devotional, sensual, quietly intense
- Best for: Oral sex of all varieties, with hands free access for toys and massage
- Difficulty: Beginner friendly, as long as knees and necks are supported
How To Arrange The Silent Night Position
The receiving partner lies on their back, supported by pillows beneath their head and possibly beneath their knees. Their legs can be bent and relaxed open, or extended with a pillow under the ankles. The giving partner settles between their thighs or beside one leg, depending on their preferred angle for oral sex.
This is a position for taking one’s time. The giving partner can use both mouth and hands, switching between broad, teasing strokes and more concentrated attention as their partner responds. Spoken communication is welcome, but small, guided movements of hips or thighs can also convey what feels exquisite.
Comfort Tips & Toy Enhancements
- Support the giver’s knees with a folded blanket if you are on the floor, or use the edge of the bed so that the giver can sit comfortably while leaning forward.
- Keep a bottle of water nearby. Holiday air can be dry and you want mouths and tongues well hydrated.
- Incorporate a bullet vibrator for external stimulation while giving oral. This can allow the receiving partner to enjoy blended sensations without the giver having to adjust their technique.
- Alternatively, a vibrating butt plug can be introduced for the receiving partner if they enjoy anal stimulation. Insert it slowly with plenty of lube before settling into the Silent Night position, and check in frequently about comfort.
You can drape yourself in a soft robe, play instrumental carols, and let the world outside your room fade into a gentle hush. It may not be the silent night your grandparents imagined, yet it will certainly be holy in its own way.
Naughty But Nice: Using Sex Toys And Holiday Props Safely
A Victorian heart may thrill at satin ribbons and candlelight, yet a modern body deserves modern safety. A few gentle reminders will keep your festive experiments as safe as they are pleasurable.
- Consent first: Talk through any new position, prop, or toy before you begin. Enthusiastic yes is your only invited guest.
- Body awareness: Skip positions that strain backs, knees, or wrists. Add cushions and choose lower impact poses when in doubt.
- Prop safety: Use ribbons and bows loosely, never tightly around the neck or chest. Keep string lights far from wet skin and never use them for restraint unless they are purpose built for that and you have proper education.
- Body safe toys only: For penetration or anal play, use toys made of body safe materials with proper bases. A well designed butt plug, dildo, vibrator, or dildo wand from a trusted source such as Bone and Blossom is far safer than improvising with household objects.
- Alcohol in moderation: Mulled wine is festive, yet clear communication and pain free sex are far more important than finishing the bottle.
Wrap It Up: Creating Your Own Christmas Sex Tradition
You need not attempt every position in one night, unless you are particularly determined to give Santa heart palpitations. Instead, choose one idea for each weekend in December, or tuck little handwritten “position coupons” into your partner’s stocking and let them redeem them slowly throughout the winter.
Remember that the true gift here is not flexibility or performance. It is laughter when a position feels silly, tenderness when someone feels shy, and the warm certainty that in the midst of holiday chaos you are each other’s favourite place to rest. With a few thoughtfully chosen toys from Bone and Blossom, a handful of cushions, and a shared sense of mischief, you can create your own cherished, secret Christmas ritual.
Santa may not approve, but fortunately for you, he is not on the guest list.
