Valentine’s Sex Positions That Beat Dinner Reservations

Valentine's prix fixe menus are lovely in theory. In practice, they often involve tepid risotto, crowded dining rooms, and a bill that whispers, “You could have been naked at home instead.”

This year, consider making your bedroom the hottest table in town, with a menu of positions that prioritise closeness, comfort, and deliciously slow indulgence over acrobatics.

At Bone and Blossom, we delight in intimacy that feels both romantic and a little bit wicked. The following six Valentine’s sex positions are designed for real bodies and real couples.

They work beautifully for all genders and orientations, can be adapted for toy play, and shine brightest when accompanied by good communication, plentiful sex lubricant, and a shared sense of curiosity.

Think of this as your at-home Valentine’s tasting menu, with positions arranged for maximum connection, not maximum contortion.

1. The Candlelit Lotus: A Romantic Face to Face Sex Position for Valentine’s Night In

The Lotus is the spiritual opposite of sitting across from each other at a crowded restaurant. Instead of clinking glasses over a linen tablecloth, you are wrapped around one another, face to face, with eyes, lips, and hands within effortless reach.

How to get into the Lotus position

• The partner providing the “seat” sits upright, legs crossed or comfortably bent in front.
• The receiving partner straddles them, wrapping their legs around the seated partner’s back or hips.
• Chests press together. Spines stay tall but relaxed, supported by pillows or a headboard if needed.
• From here, move with slow rocking or gentle grinding rather than deep, fast thrusts.

This position works beautifully for penis in vagina penetration, strap-on use, or simply for grinding with a toy held between bodies. It is also lovely without penetration at all, focusing on kissing, mutual masturbation, or vibrator play between your bellies.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• Place pillows behind the seated partner’s back to protect the lower spine.
• If hips are tight, the receiving partner can keep their feet on the bed for leverage instead of wrapping fully.
• For any knee or hip sensitivity, open the legs only as far as feels comfortable and take frequent stretch breaks.

Refined toy ideas for the Lotus position

• A wand vibrator held against the clitoris or perineum as you rock together turns this into a gentle, immersive full-body experience.
• A high quality water based lubricant keeps movement smooth and comfortable, especially when thighs and bellies stay in close contact.

Dim the lights, put on a slow playlist, and consider this your first course in connection that makes any reservation feel suddenly unnecessary.

2. Aligned Hearts: The Coital Alignment Technique for Deep Romantic Connection

The Coital Alignment Technique, often shortened to CAT, is essentially a more intentional, more clitoris-friendly missionary. Everything feels familiar, just a touch more thoughtful, which makes it perfect for Valentine’s when you want something that feels both comforting and deliciously effective.

How to do aligned missionary (CAT)

• The receiving partner lies on their back, with a pillow under the hips if that feels good.
• The penetrating partner starts in a regular missionary position on top.
• Instead of thrusting straight in and out, the partner on top shifts their body slightly higher so that their pubic bone lines up with the clitoris or front of the vulva.
• Movement becomes more of a rocking or gliding forward and back, keeping constant contact with the clitoris, rather than deep pulling back between each stroke.

This position works beautifully for penis in vagina sex, strap-ons, or for grinding with a toy between the pelvises. Face to face proximity keeps kissing, talking, and eye contact easy.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• Place a small pillow or folded blanket under the receiving partner’s hips to experiment with angles.
• If wrists or shoulders tire, the penetrating partner can rest on their forearms or lower their chest fully onto their partner for a more relaxed embrace.
• Use plentiful lubricant to keep friction focused on pleasure, not discomfort.

Valentine’s enhancements with discreet toys

• A flat, palm-sized bullet vibrator placed above the clitoris or nestled slightly to one side can provide focused external stimulation while you maintain the rocking rhythm.
• A small, beginner friendly butt plug worn by either partner can intensify internal sensations for those who enjoy anal play. Go slowly, use plenty of lube, and ensure full enthusiastic consent.

Think of aligned missionary as the elegant upgrade to a familiar classic. Comforting, intimate, and perfectly at home on a cosy Valentine’s night in.

3. Valentine’s Spooning: The Ultimate Lazy, Romantic Sex Position for Staying In

Spooning is the barely-leaving-the-sofa of sex positions. It is ideal for couples who are pleasantly full from a home cooked meal and would like their dessert to require as little effort as possible without sacrificing tenderness.

How to spoon for intimacy and pleasure

• Both partners lie on their sides facing the same direction.
• The penetrating partner is behind, bodies aligned, with their pelvis snug against the receiving partner’s hips.
• Penetration (whether with a penis, strap-on, or toy) happens from behind, with shallow, rhythmic thrusts or slow rocking.
• Hands stay free for clitoral stimulation, nipple play, or gentle holding and stroking.

Spooning is also a wonderful position for non penetrative play. The partner behind can hold a bullet vibrator (or a regular vibrator) against their lover’s clitoris, penis, nipples, or anywhere else that delights them, all while whispering in their ear.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• Place a pillow between knees to ease pressure on hips and lower backs.
• If deep penetration is uncomfortable, keep legs closer together and focus on shallow movements combined with external stimulation.
• Excellent for pregnancy, fatigue, or anyone with back or knee issues that make more upright positions challenging.

Soft, cosy extras to pair with spooning

• Use a silky lubricant to reduce friction between thighs and make all touch feel gliding and smooth.
• A slim wand vibrator fits easily between bodies to stimulate the clitoris, perineum, or penis without needing large movements.

If Valentine’s had a comfort-food sex position, spooning would be it. Intimate, low pressure, and perfect for drifting from “just cuddling” into something rather more decadent.

4. Reclined Romance: Woman on Top and Lazy Cowgirl Variations for Valentine’s Pleasure

Reclined rider positions bring a wonderful mix of control for one partner and relaxation for the other. The partner on top can set the pace and depth, while the partner below enjoys the view and the sensations with minimal effort, much like being served an exquisite dessert without lifting a finger.

How to do a reclined rider (lazy cowgirl) position

• The receiving partner lies on their back, propped slightly with pillows if desired.
• The penetrating partner straddles their hips, facing them, and lowers themselves onto the penis, strap-on, or toy.
• Instead of bouncing up and down, think of slow forward and backward grinding along the pelvis, or gentle circular movements.
• The partner on the bottom can hold hips, thighs, or breasts, or provide clitoral stimulation with fingers or a toy.

This position is wonderfully adaptable. It can be used with harnesses, dildos, or external toys only. It suits many body types and allows the partner on top to adjust angles very precisely.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• If knees are sensitive, the partner on top can keep more weight on their feet or use pillows under their thighs.
• The partner on the bottom can bend their knees or keep legs straight, depending on what feels supportive.
• Communicate continuously about depth and rhythm, especially if one partner is newer to being on top.

Valentine’s toys that pair beautifully with reclined positions

• A bullet or small vibrator held to the clitoris or frenulum while grinding can bring blended stimulation that many find intensely pleasurable.
• Use a generous amount of lubricant on the shaft of a toy or penis and around the vulva or entrance to keep motion gliding and comfortable.
• For those who enjoy anal play, anal beads worn by the receiving partner can make each movement feel deeper and more enveloping. Always apply lube liberally and insert slowly.

Reclined rider positions make Valentine’s sex feel luxurious rather than strenuous. Think slow sips of champagne rather than rushed shots.

5. The Velvet Corkscrew: A Side Lying Sex Position for Deep Sensation and Connection

The Corkscrew is a sensual hybrid that combines some of the intimacy of spooning with a bit more access and depth. It feels a touch more special than standard positions, without demanding circus-level flexibility, making it ideal for a “we stayed in and it was unforgettable” Valentine’s evening.

How to do the Corkscrew sex position

• The receiving partner lies on their side, near the edge of the bed, facing outward.
• They bend their top leg and either rest it on the bed in front of them or hook it gently over the penetrating partner’s hip or shoulder, depending on comfort.
• The penetrating partner kneels or stands beside the bed, aligning their pelvis with the receiving partner’s hips.
• Penetration occurs from the side, with the top leg providing access. Hands are free for clitoral or penile stimulation and exploring the body.

This position is particularly nice for couples who enjoy a blend of emotional closeness and a slightly more intense physical angle. It works with penises, strap-ons, and thrusting toys.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• Support the lifted leg with a pillow if holding it up becomes tiring.
• If deeper penetration becomes uncomfortable, bring the knee a bit lower and keep movements slower and shallower.
• This can be a good option for those who want variety without too much pressure on wrists or shoulders.

Discreet pleasure enhancers for the Corkscrew

• A soft vibrator can be held against the clitoris or along the shaft of a penis while in this position, creating multiple points of stimulation.
• A high slip lubricant is especially helpful here, since there is a bit of angle and friction. Apply generously to both partners and to any toy used.
• For adventurous couples, a small butt plug worn by the receiving partner can intensify the sensation of fullness. Always insert gently, with lots of communication and lube.

The Corkscrew feels like a secret course on your Valentine’s menu, hidden between cuddling and edge-of-the-bed adventure.

6. The Edge-of-the-Bed Embrace: Standing and Semi Standing Sex for Spicy Valentine’s Nights

For couples who want their at-home Valentine’s to feel just a touch scandalous, the edge-of-the-bed embrace offers a sense of drama without requiring stamina worthy of a period novel’s fencing scene. It can be as gentle or as heated as you please.

How to do an edge-of-the-bed sex position

• The receiving partner lies on their back near the edge of the bed, hips close to the side, legs bent or gently open.
• The penetrating partner stands or kneels between their lover’s thighs at the bedside.
• Lift the receiving partner’s legs to rest over the standing partner’s hips or shoulders, or keep them bent with feet on the bed for more control.
• From here, move slowly at first. Adjust depth, angle, and rhythm continually through feedback.

This position works for penis in vagina, anal play with appropriate preparation, strap-ons, and dildos. Hands are free for clitoral stimulation, testicular play, caressing thighs, or holding hands, which keeps connection tender even when the energy grows more intense.

Comfort and accessibility notes

• Place a firm pillow under the receiving partner’s hips to align the pelvis and reduce strain on the lower back.
• If the standing partner’s knees or back become tired, they can kneel on a cushion or sit at the edge of the bed instead.
• Deep angles can be intense. Move slowly, check in, and never push through sharp pain.

Elegant toy pairings for edge-of-the-bed intimacy

• A powerful yet quiet vibrator for the clitoris or perineum can turn this into a wonderfully multi-layered experience.
• For anal exploration, a tapered butt plug can be worn by the receiving partner once properly warmed up, or by the penetrating partner for enhanced sensation. Use a body safe lubricant specifically suited for anal play and never rush insertion.
• Generous lubrication around any area receiving penetration will help maintain comfort and allow you to focus fully on the romance of the moment.

The edge-of-the-bed embrace feels like a stolen moment in a candlelit corridor, only with more pillows and a much safer landing.

Gentle Guidance for Your At-Home Valentine’s Menu

Set the scene for connection

• Think soft lighting, perhaps a candle or two, and music that makes you want to move closer.
• Share a simple dessert in bed. Strawberries, chocolate, or anything you can lazily feed each other between kisses work beautifully.
• Consider starting with a massage using a light oil, then moving into whichever position you both feel drawn to first.

Talk about it, tenderly

• Before the evening, you might say, “Instead of going out, would you like to try some new ways of being close together at home?”
• During each position, offer feedback like, “A little slower there,” or, “That angle feels incredible, stay just like that.”
• Agree on a simple check in phrase if someone needs to pause. “Pause” or “gentler” can keep communication clear without disrupting the mood.

Above all, remember that Valentine’s intimacy is not a performance. It is a shared exploration. The aim is not to achieve the most daring position, but to feel cherished, excited, and at home in each other’s arms.

Whether you spend the evening in a candlelit Lotus, tucked into spoons, or indulging in the Velvet Corkscrew, staying in can indeed be far more satisfying than any dinner reservation.

Bone and Blossom is here to accompany you with refined toys like a well chosen vibrator, a silky butt plug, and sumptuous lubricant, so that every touch on your Valentine’s menu feels intentional, loving, and exquisitely your own.