There are a handful of questions we get asked all the time at Bone & Blossom. So often, in fact, that it felt worth writing a little Roxy style post about them.
Most people do not walk through our doors confident, prepared, or knowing exactly what they want. They walk in curious. Nervous. Unsure of the words they are about to use.
One of the most common things we hear is simple and honest:
“This is my first time… and I don’t really know where to start. Can you help me?”
Often that sentence is followed by an awkward laugh, a pause, or even an apology, as if not knowing is something to be embarrassed about.
It isn’t.
Another question we hear almost daily sounds like this:
“I feel really awkward right now because I’m not sure how to talk about this. Is it okay to bring this up?”
And once permission feels given, the real question comes out. The personal one. The one they have been holding onto.
That moment is never uncomfortable for us. In fact, it is one of the most important parts of what we do.
I’m Just Looking for Something I Can Use With My Partner
This is one Jacky and I hear constantly. People are not usually looking for anything extreme or complicated. They are simply trying to connect, explore, or add something new into their relationship, without knowing exactly what that something is yet.
There is often a fear of choosing wrong, or of not knowing enough before even walking in. But starting points do not need to be perfect. They just need to feel comfortable.
This Would Be My First Toy… What Do You Recommend?
First time questions come up every single day, usually asked with a mix of excitement and uncertainty.
People want reassurance. They want something approachable. They want to know they are not going to overwhelm themselves or do it wrong.
What we always explain is that starting small, taking your time, and learning what you like is not only okay, it is encouraged. First does not have to mean complicated, intense, or rushed.
I Don’t Even Know If I Prefer Internal or External Stimulation
This is one of those questions people are often surprised to hear is incredibly common.
Many assume they are supposed to already know the answer, but preference usually comes from exploration, not certainty. Different bodies respond to different sensations, materials, and types of touch.
There is no test to pass.
No timeline to follow.
No single correct preference.
I Have Severe Dryness… Is This Normal?
This question is often whispered, and sometimes asked with hesitation or embarrassment.
Yes, it is normal. And yes, a lot of people experience it.
Dryness can happen for many reasons, including stress, hormones, medication, postpartum changes, menopause, or simply how your body functions. It does not mean something is wrong with you, and it does not mean intimacy has to be uncomfortable.
We talk openly about options that can help support comfort and pleasure, always with care, respect, and zero judgment.
You Don’t Need the Right Words
One thing we wish more people knew is that you do not need to have the language figured out before you come in. You do not need experience. You do not need confidence. You do not even need a clear question.
You can start with “I feel awkward,” or “I don’t know,” or “This might sound silly.”
None of it is silly.
Bone & Blossom exists to be a space where curiosity is welcome, questions are normal, and no one is expected to have it all figured out. Sometimes people leave with a product. Sometimes they leave with information. Sometimes they leave simply feeling more comfortable than when they arrived.
All of those outcomes matter.
If you have ever stood outside wondering whether it is okay to come in, this is your sign.
It is.
Come in and talk to us.
No pressure. Just curiosity.
